So I had a bit of trouble trying to figure out what to write for this new post of the year because I wanted to address everything that was on my mind about this year, while not boring you all with pages of what I had to say.
HAPPY NEW YEAR!!
As everyone else is, I am extremely excited for this new year. New beginnings, new opportunities, all that good stuff. One thing that really frustrated me the past few days is seeing so many tweets and social media posts about what everyone is going to do better in the next year. To be honest, I was still trying to make sure I was doing better in 2017. Last year I had a few number of setbacks that changed my outlook on the year. Nothing life changing, but just, life. One thing about me is that I hold myself to an extremely high standard and I usually don’t give up until I feel fulfilled about whatever it is I am trying to accomplish.
I had such an overemphasis on avoiding failure in 2017 that it eventually happened.. a lot. As I was reflecting yesterday I realized that instead of focusing so much on what did happen, I never put much thought into what I can do to change my mindset. Failure happens all the time, I’m sure everybody can relate to that. Sometimes we get so focused on what we did or what happened that the situation turns from bad to worse. For all the people who like me, have a problem with focusing way too much on the bad than good, here are some tips on how to change your mindset for 2018.
1. Trust the Process
One of my favorite verses from the bible is Proverbs 2:3,5 “Trust the lord with all your heart and learn not on your own understanding but in all your ways acknowledge him and he will direct your paths.” Even if you aren’t a practicing christian it’s still a way of thinking that can ease your tension about failure. Trust that things will turn out for the better, and that whatever happens is not set in stone. When something goes wrong, we’re so quick to panic and think that we’ll be trapped in this predicament for weeks, months, or even years. In reality that isn’t the case at all. Whenever we face hardships there is always a silver lining. As cliche as it sounds, everything happens for a reason, and once you understand and trust that, you’ll feel more at ease when things go awry.
2. Don’t compare your success to others’
I know several people struggle with this one, myself included. It is very easy to compare what you have and what you don’t have to other people who may seem like they are moving at a faster pace than you. Key word: seem. Unless you know that person’s life in and out, you have absolutely NO IDEA what they are currently going through or what they have struggled with before they got to where they are. To them they may not even be where they want to be yet. Do not waste your time and energy trying to compete with your peers. You’ll end up setting yourself back while others are achieving their goals. Everybody’s path is different. Your path is different. Keep working and don’t let someone else’s success affect your process.
3. Learn from your mistakes
I’m going to be transparent for a bit and admit that one failure I had from 2017 was that I was let go from my first job after college. For months I was constantly beating myself up and refusing to forgive myself because I put so much faith and effort into trying my best to do a good job. However, nothing happens exactly how you plan it, and I definitely did not expect this to happen. One thing I took from this opportunity God blessed me with is that it was an experience. What is the most important about an experience is that it is what you make of it. I could easily put myself down and put all of my energy into resenting my former co-workers because it is a first instinct when something like this happens. On the other hand, I can reflect on this situation, learn from what I did wrong, and apply my new found knowledge to my next opportunity. Failure is the best teacher, if you allow it to be. Unfortunately several of us allow failure to make us angry, bitter, and negative. Consequences from your mistakes may hurt in the moment, but what you learn from them can have profound effects on your life.
Enjoy the first week of the year! Staying positive isn’t easy all the time and whenever it gets rough again just come back to this post.
Stay blessed and confidently walk into 2018 like